Initial Thoughts from Relevant: Being Good Enough {or Not}
As I boarded the plane to Pennsylvania, it didn’t seem real. I could hardly believe that I was really going to leave my family for a few days and go to a blogging conference.
But I did.
And it was good.
Spending time away from my family is a rare thing, so I made the most of it and gazed out of windows, ate plenty of chocolate, and scribbled lots of notes.
Upon arriving I heard a familiar voice in my ear. The one that whispers, “You’re not good enough.” “No one really cares.” “They don’t want to talk to you.” Insecurity rearing its ugly head.
Throughout the conference I forced myself to be brave, to speak when I was afraid, and listen to words flowing from women just as fearful as me.
It became obvious that so many of us are the same. We all look different, but we are the same in so many ways.
The theme of not being good enough ran through the words I heard. Many women, singing the same song: I want someone to love me. Someone to know me. Someone to tell me I’m okay. To tell me I’m good enough.
In the end, we may or may not receive the gift of having a person say these things to us.
What we really need, and what I heard loud and clear through the Relevant conference, is to know that God loves us.
He loves us fervently.
He will not stop loving us.
This is the answer to all struggling and striving.
As much as I may want validation on this earth, it doesn’t matter in the end. What others think of me is not what I should cling to. What God thinks of me, well, that matters for eternity.
I’m thanking God for the smiling faces and accepting hearts I met this weekend. I’m grateful for the wonderful community women share. I’m so glad to be a woman!
I’m also thanking God for the beautiful reminder to look to Him in all circumstances, to seek His favor and instruction, and to fill myself with the One who truly satisfies.
We may not be good enough. But in Him, we can be. He covers the flaws and loves us anyway. Thanking God for making a way for each one to be forgiven and live with him eternally.
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You are MORE than good enough. And you are lovely. I truly enjoyed our time together talking. I hope we’ll have more. xo
Thanks Hyacynth. I had so much fun with you and hope we are able to see each other again!
Yes! Look to Him in everything! I wasn’t a Relevant attendee but I sure can relate to your words here.
Thanks Jamie. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one 🙂
You are so right. I think the Enemy tried the same ploy on all of us, trying to quiet the thunder, His words in each of our voices. Am glad you are not allowing Him, and that you took the time to let Him invest into you this weekend!
Thanks Lindsey. I agree, he did try the same ploy on all of us. It certainly seemed that way. Glad to see so many strive to overcome.
Thanks for your kind words!
I’m so glad for you that you were able to go to Relevant this year Stacy. And I love the words that you wrote in this post – it’s good to know that I’m not the only one who has thoughts like this run through my head! I often struggle with this, but when I make myself just stop and think about how much God loves ME and how He sent His Son to die for ME, it humbles me beyond words and knocks those ugly thoughts right out of my head. You are so right – “We may not be good enough. But in Him, we can be.”
Mindy, I wish you could have been there with me! Maybe some day.
It’s amazing to think that God loves each of us. That He sent His Son, just for us. I’m glad you pointed that out because we so often think of it in a broad sense – God loves everyone. God sent His Son for all. Which is true, but thinking of it in a personal sense makes it much more real.
Thanks for your encouragement.
Different but the same all pointing to Him who is enough! Remember what Holley said, “You are already amazing!”
I am so glad you and I were able to meet! I loved our chat and you are on my heart!
Glad I wasn’t the only one feeling the same things. 🙂
stacy, i loved meeting you, friend. you are a generous, gentle spirit and i’m better for our time together. xo